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Back to the Grind

It's Monday. I could go into the whole "time to get back to work, the weekend's over, blah blah blah blah" crap, but I'll spare you. I'll just say "it's Monday." You know the deal.

Anyway, as with this little post's title, DrummerWife and I were discussing the possibility of her extending her time away from the grind after DrummerBaby arrives. She's convinced that she's going to find a way to stay home for a few months in addition to whatever maternity leave she may get from work (most likely to only be the legally mandated 6 weeks, unpaid - but hey, we can dream). If she can find a way to do it, God bless her. But it would be putting us in a very tight financial situation. I'm not opposed to the idea, but I am terrified of it. The idea of supporting three humans on my income alone just gives me the heebie-jeebies.

But alas, I've given her my blessing to pursue the idea. If she can find a way to make it work for a few months, then more power to her.

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Anonymous said…
not sure what to say to that posting. doesn't sound real supportive - sometimes we have to work harder than we'd like to to support our families. 2nd job? freelance work?
7:34 PM
Josh said…
Don't I get to be a parent? Or should I be giving up all my time with the kid to take on more work?

Oh wait, I'm just the father.
7:24 AM
Anonymous said…
Don't just give her your blessing and leave it up to her. If there is any possible way, work together to figure out how you can accomplish it. You will have many years to be a wonderful father and there's no doubt you will be, but it's important for both mom's and baby's health to spend as much time together as possible after baby's birth.
9:25 AM
Josh said…
So I should just say "hey, hon, thanks for the baby. It's really great. Now, I'm going to go take a second job, and work 65 hours a week, and be to exhausted to even enjoy my child."

Excuse me, but that hardly seems fair.

What does seem fair to me is, DrummerWife takes a job at night after a few weeks, and gives me a hand supporting the kid financially.

I'm willing to help. But I'm not going to shoulder the burden of financially supporting this family on my own, not when I fully expect to be included in helping to raise the child. If it's 50/50 in parenting, then it's gotta be 50/50 in finances as well.

If I was financially independent, and we didn't need DrummerWife's income, that would be one thing. But we're not. And we do need her income. And that's just life.
11:59 AM
Anonymous said…
I will just step in here and say that he IS being supportive and we ARE working through this together. I think that people are gettin hung up on the way it was written - like this is going to be MY burden to carry, and it is not that way at all. We are working through this and will be continuing to work through this to see if this is even an option for us as parents as well as the well-being of our child.
12:06 PM
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