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This Friday...

...is the date that DrummerWife and I have been waiting for. It's the big day, the day that Aaron was SUPPOSED to be born. Or, if you prefer, after he WAS born, the day he was SUPPOSED to come home from the hospital.

Now, this Friday is just another day. But it's not. Not really. Maybe in the years to come it will become something close to just another day - but for this year, at least, it will be The Day That Wasn't.

At the advice of our grief counselor, we're trying to settle on a way to acknowledge the 4th. We want to do something to just say "Today is August 4th, it was supposed to be a day of joy, but now it is a day of remembrance and grief." Then, we want to do something for us - something enjoyable, relaxing, and/or fun.

We have some ideas. We'll see what we decide on.

Comments

Anonymous said…
One of my friend's friends had a baby pass away and on what would have been her first birthday they had friends gather at a local park during lunch and did a balloon release. I heard it was very nice.

I'm sure Friday will be a hard day.. you guys are still in my thoughts and prayers.
1:14 PM
Anonymous said…
I will be thinking of you on Friday. Lots of prayers and hugs, baby Aaron will never be forgotten.
7:41 PM
The Sanity Inspector said…
Here's a squeeze of the hand from me, along with hopes that the pain heals but the memory stays.
4:10 PM
Stephanie823 said…
I hope you guys think of something wonderful to do together on Friday. I will be thinking of you all day long. If it's not 500 degrees, maybe a picnic and plant a small tree for Aaron and you can watch it grow... That's just a thought that popped into my head. Take good care of each other.
Stephanie823 (DWLZ)
9:51 AM
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