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2 Years

Two-years ago on May 31st, the world I knew was destroyed. I say this not in a depressing way, but more in a look how far we have come way. Two years ago, our baby boy went to heaven. We were crushed. Josh and I as well as our families. For someone so sweet and innocent to die was beyond our comprehension. I have been writing this entry in my head for 4 days now, but I wanted to get some of it down on paper. To have something go that wrong in your life is truly a life changing experiment. We started counseling right away and were told that we would need to work on finding the "new" us. I am really not sure what that means, but I know we have found it - or at least that we have found some of it.

I have changed in the last two years and I know Josh has as well. We have done all that we can think to do to remember Aaron. We have met some amazing people and gotten close to them that have also lost a baby. We have in two years had two very successful March for Babies teams and in doing so we have raised over $10,000 (in two years) for the March of Dimes. We have volunteered for the March of Dimes and have met some amazing people through that effort as well. We have had 2 very successful Christmas Toy Drives that have made HUNDREDS of sick children very happy. We have become closer to each other and closer with our family and friends. We are better people because of this.

It still hurts...daily. That hurt will always be there, just less. I am starting to be able to think of happier times and remember them. But I am proud of what we have done. Of course, I would rather have a two-year old running around and driving me crazy, but I am beyond proud to be Aaron's mom...in whatever capacity I have to do it in and I know my little boy is smiling down on all of us :-)

I love you Aaron, and I miss you beyond what words can express. I will never stop being a mom to you and you will always be baby. I hope that we can continue remembering you in whatever way we possibly can. I hope when you see all of the things that we are doing you smile and say 'That's my family, my friends, and MY Mommy and Daddy'. We love you more than there are stars in the sky. XOXO, Mommy

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Anonymous said…
I normally check this website almost everyday...this past week I did not. You certainly write amazing messages to your son - what a special way to share your thoughts and feelings with all of us. We too are extremely proud of Aaron's mommy and daddy for all that you do in his memory. I love all of you and have Aaron in my heart and thoughts every single day.
Grandma and Grandpa W
5:18 PM
Anonymous said…
What a nice note, Nikki. I'm so glad I checked this blog today. I'm happy to be part of all the activities and close to you. Missing Aaron and remembering him always -

Love,
Roxie
12:18 PM
Anonymous said…
Hi Nikkiship,

I rediscovered this site when I was, I'm ashamed to admit, googling my name, "Jim Bures." It was like number 8 on the list. When I clicked here, it brought a flood of memories about the DWLZ boards and stuff. But then I remembered what happened to your baby. I am glad to see how you are recovering and still remembering your child. You both have done a lot to help people through similar situations. I think that is how God uses us: to help others in ways we can relate to them. Encouraging others helps them to overcome their obstacles as well.

So I just thought I'd jot a little note. My name on DWLZ was Zedek73 or "Z". May God bless you as you continue to recover.

Love,
Jim Bures
12:02 AM
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